Clear, executable advice, even if the answer to every question regardless of context was to put money in an RRSP. Took it with a grain of salt, came away with an action plan.
Page-turner, predictable plot, okay writing, great ending.
Even worse than its reputation, Go Ask Alice is probably the worst book I've ever read - maybe the worst book ever published - literally the worst book to ever be considered a classic. It's like The Basketball Diaries for Her, but nothing like it, because The Basketball Diaries is not poorly-written propaganda drivel.
Rating: 1/5 stars
Compiled by Jen Serdetchnaia
It’s been 7 hours and 15 days. Understand that nothing is within your control. Stillness is an illusion.
Do you know the difference between engagement and tension? Pain is good because it’s a reminder of our limitations. Let stress serve as a reminder to relax.
Why look toward where you don’t want to be? Why focus on what you don’t want? Let comfort be your guide. Less time in position, more time in transition. Less about the movement, more about the breath. Don’t reach for what’s not yours. Don’t lunge for what’s not yours. Don’t force yourself into a position that you’re not ready for. If you can linger in the shape then you own it.
Only do what you can do and always do what you can do. The doing is the success. It goes by fast as long as you don’t resist. The end points are easy, it’s what’s in the middle that’s difficult. Just flow. Sometimes we miss what we truly need.
Whatever you’re feeling, feel less. Whatever you’re trying for, pull back. Soften your strengths. Let go of it if it doesn’t serve. Effortless effort. Balance working hard and letting go. It’s harder than it looks.
The quickest path is to be where you are now. If there is no desire, then you have everything. Every option is perfect. What you did and what you didn’t do and who you aren’t that you wish you were, let it all go. We are human beings not human doings. Believe the hype.
Discovery is seeing what everybody else has seen and thinking what nobody else has thought.
The White House is a place where risks and rewards are “perilously” skewed, says Litt. Then he treats us to a story where sentence structure gone wrong pissess off a sovereign nation and makes headlines—proving his point.
A speechwriter’s memoir from a guy whose first job out of college was at the White House, Thanks, Obama, is Littered (pun intended) with hilarious metaphors and self-aware prose. As one would expect, Litt’s a fantastic writer. He says his job is to make complexity simple, and in Thanks, Obama, he shows off his prowess in a hilarious and quick read. This memoir is about coming of age on the job and the acknowledgment that the world’s most powerful people are human and how scary is that.
You have to read for yourself, but a few of the LOL/aww lines:
“It was as if Catholics and Protestants had split, and she’d responded by turning to Satan.”
“The question of whether I belonged seemed less important than the fact that I was here.”
“Imagine if a bank branch mated with a country club and raised a perfect child. That’s the Republican National Committee.”
“As far as I can tell, the DNC headquarters was designed by someone who had never seen a building before.”
“The glassy look in their eyes suggested a decidedly informal approach to human life.”
“Washingtonians are united by the season-long schvitz they take each year.”
“Change comes from people who set a worthy goal, put themselves in a position to achieve it, and keep working long after the warm and fuzzy feelings disappear.”
Probably the best memoir I've read in recent years.
When I picked up Walk through Walls on a random recommendation at The Met Breuer's gift shop, I knew Abramović only vaguely as the performance artist who was reportedly reunited with a former lover during a MoMA event that involved her staring into visitors' eyes for days on days on days.
Abramović's story is an ode to the grit and perseverance (hence the title) that's needed to build success over the many, many years it takes to get there. Of course Abramović chose a career that's grittier than most of ours - it requires her to regularly go without food or movement, and to physically harm herself, all in the name of (performance) art - but the requirements for success are surprisingly similar. Yet don't be fooled - not all unyielding talented young artists were positioned to encounter the same luck as Abramović; after all, she was born into the culturally elite Red Bourgeois ruling class of Yugoslavia to gritty survivors/war heroes (Abramović fashioned her father as somewhat of Tito's left-hand man!) that loved and encouraged art. As a former Eastern Bloc-er myself, I have an acute appreciation for all this.
This memoir is as much about stark loss, bleak heartbreak and bad patterns, as it is about casual references to Björk and Susan Sontag.
More important than the chronology of her becoming, the Abramović memoir is about art. Bad art is aesthetic. Good art is art in context. Good art is transformative. Good art is immaterial. I wonder what Abramović thinks of Kendrick's rapidly iconic Humble - I'm so sick and tired of the Photoshop/Show me something natural.
We're all getting on the same page here.
I love words for words' sake and rarely dislike a book so strongly, but this one really got me in all the wrong ways. White Oleander is repetitive and long-winded, about 300 pages too long, sloppily-edited, gratuitous, and even exploitative. I don't require believability from fiction, but White Oleander was trite and clichéd for little higher metaphoric purpose. Much more would have been accomplished with much less.
How this could possibly be the real journal of someone who survived the chronicled events is beyond me, but it suggests to me that the human body and the psyche are capable of withstanding much more than prescribed.
More about a feeling in time than an event. The feeling: intersection of melancholy and anticipation. This book is also an ode to Toronto—too few books are set in this city and it is culturally important that more books are. Best line: “our bodies know loss”.
I probably loved this book because I’m in almost complete agreement with its main arguments.
Christensen is a distinguished theorist of business, and here he applies business theory to personal life. I took almost as much away about business strategy as I did about life strategy.
Christensen on theory
Main idea: A solid theory has no exceptions.
“Solving the challenges in your life requires a deep understanding of what causes what to happen.”
Christensen on building a career
Main idea: Be open and exploratory in your career until you find something that really fits with your skills and priorities–and then be focused and deliberate.
“Once you understand the concept of emergent and deliberate strategy, you’ll know that if you’ve yet to find something that really works in your career, expecting to have a clear vision of where your life will take you is just wasting time. Even worse, it may actually close your mind to unexpected opportunities. While you are still figuring out your career, you should keep the aperture of your life wide open. Depending on your particular circumstances, you should be prepared to experiment with different opportunities, ready to pivot, and continue to adjust your strategy until you find what is it that both satisfies the hygiene factors and gives you all the motivators. Only then does a deliberate strategy make sense. When you get it right, you’ll know.”
“I wouldn’t ever make the decision based upon how much it paid or the prestige…. Instead, it was always: is it going to give me the experiences I need to wrestle with?”
“People often think that the best way to predict the future is by collecting as much data as possible before making a decision. But this is like driving a car looking only at the rearview mirror–because data is only available about the past.”
Christensen on priorities
Main idea: How you actually spend your time, money and energy creates who you are–not your aspiration or goal-setting.
“If the decisions you make about where you invest your blood, sweat, and tears are not consistent with the person you aspire to be, you’ll never become that person.”
Christensen on purpose
Main idea: Companies that exist solely to serve each individual’s goals are forgotten quickly. Companies with a purpose are the ones that leave a mark.
“Likeness, commitment and metrics comprise a company’s purpose. Companies that aspire to positive impact must never leave their purpose to chance.” Likeness is defining what the company wants to be, commitment is committing to it, and metrics is measuring it effectively.
Christensen on relationships
Main idea: Be with someone who you want to make happy and figure out how to make them happy (rather than the inverse). Sacrifice deepens commitment.
“We go into them thinking about what we want, rather than what is important to the other person. Changing your perspective is a powerful way to deepen your relationships.”
“The path to happiness in a relationship is not just about finding someone who you think is going to make you happy. Rather, the reverse is equally true: the path to happiness is about finding someone who you want to make happy, someone whose happiness is worth devoting yourself to.”
“Given that sacrifice deepens our commitment, it’s important to ensure that what we sacrifice for is worthy of that commitment.”
Christensen on capabilities
Main idea: Your capabilities are your resources, processes and priorities. Never outsource the ones that are important for your future.
“Resources are what he uses to do it, processes are how he does it, and priorities are why he does it.”
Christensen on culture
Main idea: A culture is the sum of processes that are repeated time and time again, consciously or unconsciously.
Christensen on consequences
Main idea: “If you need a machine and don’t buy it, then you will ultimately find that you have paid for it and don’t have it.”
“Decide what you stand for. And then stand for it all the time.”
O’Hagan’s recipe for career success manages to be arrestingly original in the overcrowded space of career self-help.
The recipe: learn where you shine best, get your best at it, and find a specialized audience that needs it and can afford it.
Her method for achieving the recipe is to take initiative respectfully: first listen to understand your colleagues and the organization, then work to gain your colleagues’ respect on their terms, and then take initiative in a way that is in line with moving forward the organization.
My main criticism of the book is that O’Hagan fails to acknowledge that many factors are in play within our careers, and not everything is within our control—and often there is more that is not. But I guess there is no point in dwelling on that! :) Also I could have done without the cheesy terminology; please, no more Extreme Self and Extreme Career and Get Out of Line.
A perfect novel.
"In a closed society where everybody's guilty, the only crime is getting caught."
Krishna is urging us to fall in love with something more alluring than a weather app and I'm into that. He believes the attitude of "there is an app for that" has ruined design. He asks that we embrace the actual situation, not just what works on a screen. Let's stop designing interfaces instead of solving user problems. Let's leverage computers instead of catering to them. The best design should reduce work - not create micro-addiction.
Captivating historical fiction about identity, heritage, ancestry, family, sisterhood, growing up, immigration, politics, indifference and cruelty.
The ideas that stuck with me:
Our priorities change as we mature in ways we couldn’t have envisioned.
We reap the investments (or lack thereof) of our ancestors, and the sacrifices we make today likely won’t pay off while we’re alive.
What we’re worried about most will never happen, but something else will that we never even imagined worrying about.
Most things are outside of our control.
Shanghai Girls follows two sisters who flee Shanghai during World War II in arranged marriages and emigrate to Los Angeles, and their subsequent struggles as they in equal parts assimilate as Americans and maintain their Chinese identities in the midst of Mao Zedong-era Communist fear. Although the story is set over two decades between 1937 and 1957, the lessons of the book could not have resonated with me more as we head into an uncertain 2017.
The passage that summarizes Lisa See’s thesis:
“So often we’re told that women’s stories are unimportant. After all, what does it matter what happens in the main room, in the kitchen, or in the bedroom? Who cares about the relationships between mother, daughter, and sister? A baby’s illness, the sorrows and pains of childbirth, keeping the family together during war, poverty, or even in the best of days are considered small and insignificant compared with the stories of men, who fight against nature to grow their crops, who wage battles to secure their homelands, who struggle to look inward in search of the perfect man. We’re told that men are strong and brave, but I think women know how to endure, accept defeat, and bear physical and mental agony much better than men. The men in my life—my father, Z.G., my husband, my father-in-law, my brother-in-law, and my son—faced, to one degree or another, those great male battles, but their hearts—so fragile—wilted, buckled, crippled, corrupted, broke, or shattered when confronted with the losses women face every day. As men, they have to put a brave face on tragedy and obstacles, but they are as easily bruised as flower petals.”
This book has been much-summarized and over-quoted. Many nuggets that inspire thought. Even more buzz words. Basically: the best way to build an addictive product is to solve a problem for the user whom you know best—yourself. Make the product so intuitive to use that it inspires investment. We overvalue our own work, so the more we invest, the higher the barrier to switching. Create variability in the level of reward—sometimes the user gets rewarded, other times he doesn’t. And he’s hooked. Hopefully the product is designed for good (and not for evil), since you now have a bunch of addicts on your hands.
The narrator is a complete lunatic, so the story inside his brain is a disgusting, disturbing and fun read. Imprinted in my mind the whole time was Bert Stern's iconic photograph of Lolita in the rearview mirror for the Kubrick film.
This is a book for the socially anxious, and for the human.
The central point is that people like people who like them and everyone is constantly thinking about whether people are liking them so if you want to be liked just show people you like them but if you try too hard to be liked people will notice you’re not focusing on liking them and won’t like you but if everyone is actually honest and just goes around asking people whether they like them all the time then the differentiating characteristics in our surface personalities on which people base their likes and dislikes would be eliminated so the answer to the question ‘do you like me’ would cease to have any meaning.
- “All true art is music.”
- There can be no awareness of sin without awareness of transgression without awareness of limit.
- People have a psychological need to believe others take us as seriously as we take ourselves.
- Vulnerability can make us resent the person we feel vulnerable with.
- Sadness can be a type of narcissism where everything becomes about you and your struggle.
- A deep need for anything from other people makes us easy pickings.
- “This… is known as Werther’s Axiom, whereby… the intensity of a desire D is inversely proportional to the ease of D’s gratification. Known also as Romance.”
Should have been beautiful commentary on the messiness of human connection; actually unravels like a trite, unfinished soap opera script.
1) The moment the average became normal, the individual became error, and this reverberates throughout our educational system and our workplaces.
2) Disability is the mismatch between the needs of the individual and the service, product or environment offered. We can’t redesign a person, so naturally we should be looking to redesign the system.
3) The context principle states that individual behaviour cannot be explained outside of a specific situation, and the influence of a situation cannot be predicted without reference to the individual experiencing it. We tend to see other people as stable because we are part of their context.
4) Fit creates opportunity. If the environment is a bad match with our individuality, our performance will always be artificially impaired. If we get a good fit with our environment, we will have the opportunity to show what we are truly capable of.
My interpretation: Design for individuality means design for outliers only as far as it is true that we are all outliers. What does customizable design look like?